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From OBJ(Orang bini jauh) to BT(Bapa Tunggal)

Dear all, Before this I'm an OBJ and now my status is BP( well for 2 weeks actually). I have 4 kids and previously I have my kids living with their grandparents and my wife in a far away state. This is because my wife is working, as a lecturer like me in a university in the south. So the term OBJ- Orang bini jauh or in English: Men whose wife is faraway, it should be family faraway..but never mind. Maybe the right term is weekend husband. yeahh that's the one..:) Then my wife was asked to go to a seminar, a techno-preneur seminar where Professors are guided to make their invention commercialized.. The seminar is for 2 weeks. So I have to take care of my kids for 2 weeks, without their mother around. Can u imagine how difficult that is. My friend said, now I know how it feels to be a father. I was a father before but only during weekend. Now I know. What seems so easy, now take a longer time to finish. Kids are not efficient and slow to react to our orders. They might not know t

New environment, New discoveries, New frustration.

This was written abt 2 weeks ago. Things have changed since than.. I am usually living as a weekend husband and father. recently about 1 month ago, my wife got transfered to my workplace bringing together with her 4 of our kids. My kids, previously was raised by their grandparents (my wife parents) have bad attitudes. They are too dependent, asking us all sort of questions all the time. They always bickering/fighting with each other, the house is always noisy. I'm just not used to this kind of situation and it impact me some part or another. In point form: * i have new lifestyle, found new stuff, and having new frustration with the lifestyle * prev weekend husband/father, now everyday husband/father * transitioning can be nerve wrecking. 4 kids getting smarter everyday * Yesterday, they embarrass me in a coffe shop in front of the customers(village folks) telling that I'm Lazy, like to sleep all the time while my wife is the only person doing chores for the family * They d